ABOotlander LOVE with Beth Wesson

We, the ABOotlanders have been up to something in this fandom since we stuck our noses into it.  It’s about positive energy & intent, support and basic kindness.  We are lucky that so many others are in it with us.


Like ferrets in a ball pit. FUN FUN FUN

Love & Kindness are things we all can use more of and the law of attraction is something we practice so every two weeks in our bubble of the interwebs you will see us celebrating!

Celebrating what you ask? I am so glad you did…we are celebrating Outlander bloggers, podcasters, fans, cast, crew, twitterers…you know people we associate with Outlander that we also associate with the positive energy & kindness.

The people we have enjoyed following & sharing our interwebish experiences with.  We hope you join us and share with us your wonderful experiences in our comments section.

You may recognize our first ABOotlander LOVE featured guest. Beth Wesson.


Beth @ NYTartan Week

She is a writer & this is her blog.    I developed an admiration for Beth through her blog as most do. Though, my admiration came from my not agreeing with a few things she wrote.  The beauty of this is, Beth is a great person to have discussions with. Knowing we don’t all have to agree to get along. We can understand one anothers views without making them our own.   I believe it is more than agreeing to disagree.  This is more being able to say what you mean without being mean.

Let’s learn more about Beth! She is a wife of almost 41 years (to the same man!), Mother to a lovely daughter who is a photographer and a son who is a foreman for Honda.  She has six lovely granddaughters that range in age from 17 to 2.  She teaches high school and attend sporting events when she isn’t  writing.

We all have started with Outlander somewhere. Beth’s story emerged about eight years ago. I asked her when her love for Outlander started, this is her story.


“I was looking for new reading material.  I loved Historical Fiction so, I typed into the search bar, “best Historical Fiction you’ve ever read”.  It generated a list and Outlander  by Diana Gabaldon was in the top five.  I then typed in “best Science Fiction, best Romance, and best Fantasy you’ve ever read”.  Outlander was in the top five of every list and I was intrigued.  “What kind of book was this?” I asked myself and so, I ordered the first book.  I almost quit reading (I always tell my new recruits to get through those first one hundred pages).  I’m so glad I didn’t because I was hooked and couldn’t read them fast enough.  I felt sorry for those folks who have been reading since the beginning and have had to wait and wait for the next novel.  I read a lot and I couldn’t believe I had missed this series! Diana’s attention to detail, beautiful dialogue, and layered and nuanced characters have completely ruined me for other reading experiences.  I read other books, I just don’t enjoy them as much! I find myself re reading and never tiring of the truths revealed between her pages about what it means to love and be human.”

We find inspiration all around us, sometimes in very interesting places.  I wanted to know what brought Beth to her blog.  It turns out it was snow.


Meanwhile…in Canada…

“No, seriously, snow.  We had a really bad winter and I was housebound and bored.  My nieces suggested that I start writing.  I said I would love to, but I had no idea how to start.  I think I had this idea that I had to start writing a novel right out of the gate.  They suggested that I write a blog. “They are free and easy to set-up!”,they said.  They were right.  Even with my limited techy skills I was able to set up a page.  Then It was a matter of finding something to write about.  I asked myself what I was interested in the answer was Outlander.  Believing the only people who would be reading my ramblings were my nieces I started to write.  Unbeknownst to me, my nieces sent one of my first articles to Diana.  I remember the day I was flitting around twitter and a notification flashed across my iPad that Diana had tweeted me.  I sat in shock for a second and then went to my notifications.  There it was… a message from Diana that she had read my little blog post and found it lovely…..I screamed…then quickly screenshot the message and then explained to my startled husband what had happened.  Here is a link to the article they sent Diana. http://wp.me/p4mtBT-e  I continued to write about Outlander basking in the glow that my favorite author had read and liked my writing.  Then a fortuitous accident happened.  I tried to figure out how to use my blog features.  Long story short, I accidently posted an article to Twitter. Here is the link!  http://wp.me/p4mtBT-3 Within 24 hours 1300 people had read my article.  This seemed like a huge number to me and having my writing ”outed”has been one of the best things that has ever happened to me.  Here it is almost three years later and I’m still writing about Outlander and my favorite author, executive producer, writers, and costume designer have posted my articles and I’m read all over the world.  I’m amazed!”


The heart of our blogs is our love of Outlander, which makes us fans.  Having fan experiences is something  we can share with one another and “get”. Here is Beth’s most memorable.

“I’d have to say traveling to Washington DC to hear Diana speak.  My lovely husband came with me and besides actually meeting Diana, his reaction to the line of fans stretching out the building and around the block to see her was priceless.  It tells some pretty funny stories about the whole experience.   The fan encounter I’m most looking forward to is the “Thru the Stones’ fan event in Iowa.  I’m hoping to meet Terry Dresbach! “


When you are browsing through the blogs, podcasts & fan art… leave your thoughts with those who have put their energy out there for you.  It gives them something to go with.  Read how Beth utelizes your feedback to grow as a writer & as a person.

One of the best things about writing a blog is hearing from my readers.  I always gain insight.  People write responses worthy of their own blog posts and sometimes I feature some of their responses on the blog as guest posts.  I’ve always said the most polarizing character in the series is not Black Jack Randall, but Frank.  I wish I would have thought to screen shot some of the comments written on Facebook in response to an article I wrote about Frank.  They were amazing!  The thought fans have given to what Frank knew and didn’t know and what he did and didn’t do was staggering.   http://wp.me/p4mtBT-9Z I started out pretty sure I knew , but after reading my readers comments…not so much, LOL.  I have a friend that says when I write it’s like I see a thread and pull until it all unravels and makes sense.  I like that image and believe I see several threads and pull to find out how it all fits together.  Like I did in this article I wrote about the costumes.  http://wp.me/p4mtBT-Yx “

It’s through our connections that we learn & in turn are inspired by others. Beth shares where this has happened for her.

“I have received many lovely compliments about how my writing makes people re-examine topics. I’m humbled to learn that my efforts resonate.  I have made some friends from this whole experience of blogging about Outlander.   Jane Davis is a friend I often bounce ideas off of.  She has a great ability to listen and then ask questions that cause me to look at things from another angle.  Another person is Terry Dresbach  who has a lot of non-Outlander discussions on Twitter.  There is often something brought up in those conversations that will trigger curiosity for me.  Gun control was one of those issues.  Her conversations with people on Twitter caused me to take a serious look beyond the talking points.  Her enthusiasm for meaningful conversations between people and tolerance is inspiring and affords me the chance to participate in conversations that don’t often happen in my rural part of the world.”

We all wonder what the future of Outlander is. I asked Beth to look into her magic 8 ball and this is what she came up with.

“All 9 books on the screen, Emmys, Diana writes forever.” 


We ABOotlanders have a MUST ASK question. Its totally an Alberta thing to anoint our guests.  We offer them 4 things and they must choose one.   a) Moose Droppings b) Beaver Tails c) Prairie Oysters d) Taber Corn.

Beth chose Moose Droppings.First, she was confused over what Taber corn even was and she figured she could use the moose droppings for fertilizer.  Personally…I would just eat them! DELISH!



Thank you Beth for being the first of many Outlander connections to step into the spotlight with the ABOotlanders.  Your warmth & openness has been a delight!

We look forward to many more years of insight & laughter with “My Outlander Blog

Stay tuned for our next #ABOotlanderLOVE celebration coming up in two weeks time. Share your thoughts on Beth & her contributions to the Outlander fanmily.



Founder of the ABOotlanders





ABOotlanders R Us…and now YOU too!

Yes we know…us ABOotlanders are an Alberta Canada based fan group.  We have regularly made “honourary Canadians”  a part of our ABOotlander bubble on twitter & with our blog.

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Those would be fellow Outlander fans  who have a desire to make their bubbles better.  You know the people. The ones who choose to assume positive intent. Those who want to lead with kindness.  Those who let go of the nasty negative.

Us ABOotlanders are passionate, fun, slightly inappropriate and have hearts of lollipops n rainbows so it’s natural that some people gravitate to that.  It’s also natural some people hate our ever lovin guts…that’s cool too.  We however, do not share our sandbox with those folks and we don’t engage with them either. Our energy is better spent being goofballs…happy goofballs.


We have the blog, which has peeps from all over the world reading it…We are pretty active on twitter and lots of friends from all over playing with us there…you know…playing.

It all started on our Facebook group which is exclusive to our Alberta Members…and being Canadian we feel so bad every time we turn one of our international folks away. We are sorry. Really sorry.


The only solution was to  open up an ABOotlanders Around the World FB page.  Please Like it here…and invite your friends to like it too.  We will post content and fun daily.  We will ask you to share with us and we will be doing contests & draws periodically.


See you there!



@ABOotlander Founder

The Effects of DroughtLander

Did I even know what that simple wee phrase “Droughtlander” would grow into the first time I used it in this meme all those years ago? That’s a hard no…droughtlander

I didn’t have a clue that everyone and their dog would be using it to describe the time between seasons of our favourite show Outlander.  I can thank Diana Gabaldon for posting that particular blog on her facebook page and sending it into Outlander history.  That link has since died because our group found our own identity as the ABOotlanders so you can read it HERE at its relocated addy.

The interesting thing about a drought is the impact it has on the environment around it. In the case of #Droughtlander…the impact largely falls on the fandom.


Us ABOotlanders are a hearty bunch.  During Droughtlander we get by on help from our neighbours. We share our resources.  This includes talking about the days of all the Outlander, reading about the Outlander and how plentiful and fantastic the Outlander days were. Yes…and how we know that one day the Outlander will return.  We find it immensely therapeutic.


Alas, there are the people who are crawling across the droughtlander fields gasping for breath, ridden with anxiety & depression because the Outlander hasn’t touched their lips for too long.  They can’t see the Outlander in the forecast & will do anything to make the oasis a reality in their everyday…except instead of embracing the good they are allowing the drought to blur their vision of the good it started as. Instead of remembering the things they love they are focusing on things like the bad taste the lack of Outlander has left in their mouth.


Droughts cause migration…migration of people to other things.  This is normal…when the Outlander comes back – so will the people and so will more.  Some people might not come back and that’s o.k.  Making their life with another fascination or love.  That has nothing to do with the drought itself but the way they chose to deal with it,their choice isn’t wrong. It is what is best for them.

You know droughts also cause wildfires? All you have to do is take a peek behind the curtain of this fandom to see that.  The small flames of discontent are there but unless individuals fan those flames they will never catch & become a disaster. When a spark comes your way, put it out.  How do you do that? Don’t respond.  Don’t blow on it, don’t give it the air it needs to grow. Yes, it is that simple.


Most droughts don’t have that surety of ending, ours does. Droughtlander never lasts forever but the things we say & do during the drought does.  If we seek out the cracks, we will fall through them.  If we seek out the light, we will feel the warmth.

Let’s do our very best to keep our faces to the sun. That means our heads are tipped back enjoying a bevvy. The true remedy for #Droughtlander.



ABOotlander Founder & Lover of all things happy!



Shomi is going to show me! *insert groan here*

I am getting all geared up to talk about the first season of Outlander with some fellow ABOotlanders. This group is made up of some book fans, some show fans  & a few of us who love it all!

I will be doing a LiveFeed on the Shomi Summer Streaming Club FB page. Note the times shown are in EST so make sure you do your time conversion to see when we are airing in your time zone.

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This live feed is going to feature some talking points about the 1st season, answer some questions & I will be drawing for 2…count them, 2 shomi Streaming Party prize packs worth $500.00 each.  The winners will be chosen from the most active participants in the Outlander thread on the FB event discussions. There is still time to get your comments in & interact with the other viewers. #shomisummer is the hashtag for the event, make sure you use it in all your posts


Take a little time out of your day to spend it with me and take a wee peek! giphy5



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Sex & Intimacy. My version of O-Lander

Let me start with saying everyone is entitled to their opinion. I believe our opinions are just that. Our perceptions. We all have them and they will all be different. I do not expect nor want everyone to agree with me, however, respect my right to say what I perceive…as I respect all of yours. 

One of the biggest discussions in the world of Outlander this season was the sex…or there lack of.  Many say “We didn’t see the love.”  “We were robbed of what makes Jamie & Claire…Jamie & Claire.”  “The love would never last 20 yrs if they don’t connect!”

Believe it or not, I have made a living talking about sex & intimacy in life & relationships. That is what I want to do now.  Class is in session.

Listen up!

Romantic relationships need TWO things to survive. Intimacy & Communication.  I didn’t say sex because sex is a product of these 2 categories.  Without intimacy, there likely will be no sex. Without communication, we likely won’t choose to have sex.

Let’s first keep in mind that Outlander the TV Show is that. The TV show, not a play by play of the book.  Conveying intimacy is something they can do in the show and it will turn out to have more meaning. The depth of talent that Sam Heughan and Caitriona Balfe have, means they are able to delve into that. Deeply.  Skin & sweating does not equal love & commitment. No matter how much we want to “see” it.

To reference being robbed, denied or missing something. These were never there in the first place.  What I mean by that is Outlander the TV Show has never existed before it did. 

But we read the books! Yes, I know, so did I…repeatedly.  This does not mean the TV show has been ‘built’.


These are both dogs. Definitely NOT the same thing.  Outlander, the show & the books. Like these two puppies right here.

If the argument is “They gave us all the sex in season one and took it away in season two.” I do see your point. I would like to reference that season 2 was a different relationship, a different set of circumstances and frankly, a different show with the same title. It wasn’t a bait & switch, it was an evolution. The evolution of a marriage. Those of us blessed  enough to have found a deep love have likely experienced something similar ourselves. Change happens & it’s not always comfortable.

Season 1 was an exploration of a building romantic relationship, which is undeniable more passionate. That, for visual purposes, should be seen to some degree.  Each sex scene in Season 1 had a purpose. The wedding. Each scene was given in stages.  First newness/awkwardness, passion/exploration & then falling in love.  The scene in which they were having sex away from the group, distraction. The scene in which they have sex after the spanking scene, is not only forgiveness but also ferocity. 

Season 2 was a marriage. The people in the marriage had been through a huge trauma. Jamie’s rape along with the fight to keep him alive was one that could have easily broken a marriage apart. In the start of the season we saw that.  Sure, it might have been nice to see a little skin here and there, however, it wouldn’t have made a lot of sense.

Those who are dealing with a physical trauma such as the one portrayed in the show, more often than not, lack the desire a) to perform b) have someone THAT close. No matter how much you love & trust them.  It isn’t about the partner, it is about the victim and their ability to process.  When a sexual assault happens, very often the victim is loathe to put themselves back in that vulnerable position … especially when they are still emotionally coping with the trauma.

The beautiful thing we love about the visual exploration of these books should be the writers ability to see that the human experience will need to over rule the labido.  

What we saw a GREAT deal of in season two was intimacy.  I am not referring to the fade to black or the scene in the blue room. I am referring to the looks, touches and conversations/arguments that took place.  It is in these moments that our characters become the lovers that can not bare to lose one another.


The ability to fight.  Jamie & Claire did that. Expressing anger can be quite a passionate act between partners.  It encourages us to say what is on our mind, it encourages us to not only say but show with emotion what our true feelings are.  An example is when Jamie was upset with Claire for working at L’Hôpital des Anges.  The argument was a conduit for deeper understanding which creates intimacy, which creates a deeper bond. Even when our partners say & do irrational things it causes us to think of the deeper issues. Disagreements tend to open lines of communication which in turn leads us to healthier relationships.

Another tragedy befalls Claire & Jamie.  It is the loss of a child.  Hurt, anger, pain -both physical & emotional will cause a rift in any relationship. What truly matters is the bridge back to one another and crossing it together. For when they do…it cements the relationship into something more permanent. Something that could span lifetimes.


Loss + Forgiveness + Love = Solid Love Lessons

There was a WHOLE LOTTA story to tell in 13 episodes.  We need to speak of the actors commitment to their characters.  Caitriona Balfe & Sam Heughan have said they will not do gratuitous love scenes for the sake of them.  They understand they are telling a story and that the scenes, whether sexual or violent in nature will not be over done.  That is something I am personally grateful for.   It is when shows start throwing in ass shots for the sake of ass shots that they lose credibility.  Honestly, we know that Claire & Jamie are having sex.  Like any other married/loving couple…but we don’t have to see them do it to know they are. It’s like bathing…we really don’t have to see the act, the flies aren’t gathering so we get it.

Conveying the depth of their relationship is more important to the story than sexytime.  


I would encourage folks to examine logistics of the end of the season as well.  Cold, hungry, weary and focused on changing the future.  Having sex for the sake of having sex isn’t exactly what any sane couple would do under the circumstances.  There is no doubt in my mind that they were, as their intimacy & connection showed greatly in those episodes, however, it was probably pretty un-sexy & the telling of that story was far more important.

The sex at the stones was much like the sex in the book. Fast…intense…and final. That kind of sex is never like a movie, its more like a punch in the stomach. Which I believe they captured perfectly.

I would love to end my view on the sexual world of Outlander. O-Lander if you please. Some of the most intense and intimate moments in books…don’t involve “sex” at all.   *cough* Get ready for the print shop folks. *cough* 

Too skip even further ahead to what I believe to be one of the most intimate scenes in all of Diana’s books…the final passage of  The Fiery Cross.

**Book Spoiler—if you haven’t read to this point in TFC, it is up to you to continue**

FYI-   Fun/Heartwarming Trivia —Diana Gabaldons husband is the one who uttered the final line of this particular passage. It is a testament of a well balanced marriage.  Translated to Claire & Jamie, we have watched the start of it & will continue to enjoy it.

“I sat down beside him, close, my hand on his leg, and his hand on mine. We sat thus for a bit, side by side, watching the rain clouds roll in over the river, like a threat of distant war.  And I thought that whether it was choice or no choice, it might be that it came to the same thing in the end.

   Jamie’s hand lay still on mine.  It tightened a little, and I glances at him, but his eyes were still fixed somewhere past the dooryard; past the mountains, and the distant clouds.  His grip tightened further, and I felt the edges of my ring press into my flesh.

   “When the day shall come, that we do part,” he said softly, and turned to look at me, “if my last words are not ‘I love you’–ye’ll ken it was because I dinna have time.”



@ABOotlanders Founder

SHOMI the Outlander!

That’s right! We have just finished season 2 *insert sad face here* but I have a cure for your Droughtlander blues!

Shomi Canada has invited me to be your Outlander guide during a #shomisummer Streaming Club!

What in a Streaming Club you ask? It is like a book club but instead of reading, you watch. There are 6 shows being featured. Of course….ours…Outlander. UNREAL, Mozart in the Jungle, You’re the Worst, Mr. Robot, Catastrophe & The Americans.


There will be discussions on the Streaming Club Facebook Events Page. Where you can expect some laughter & thought provoking chatter. There will also be a chance to win some pretty sweet prizes.  All you have to do is comment on any of the discussions on the Facebook page using the #shomiSummer when participating and you could win the Ultimate Streaming Experience prize pack — worth over $2,000 including: Apple TV, Samsung 60” TV, Samsung Curved Sound Bar and one-year complimentary shomi subscription.

There are 2 hosting packages ( $500 value – Bose Mini Speaker, Chromecase, 6 month shomi subscription & décor) I will be giving away to a couple of lucky streamers.  Participate on the #Outlander discussions, the most active members will be entered for the chance to win.

  Here are the contest details.

This is going to be a great time, with great people & great TV!  Join us today!

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I’ve got a crush…Outlander SETS and the man who designs them…

Yep, Jon Gary Steele.  I am super crushing on him.  Why?

First…have you SEEN the sets on Outlander?  They have been perfection since the first episode of season one. Season two has blown my mind.

Second…those dimples!


See…Those DIMPLES.

Photo Credit: Jon Gary Steele on Twitter

I just want to crawl in them and take a wee nap!

Third…He is brilliant. THE Jon Gary Steele (and I always say all 3 names because, he is classy like that)

Be prepared. I am going to do some gushing about a few sets for season 2. Why? Because the recap market is stacked to the rooftops.  I want to celebrate what Outlander has given us. I want to  give credit where credit is due.


This is one example of how the sets on Outlander support the actors in their stories. 

Photo credit : http://www.architecturaldigest.com/ 

I often wonder how people like Jon Gary Steele sleep at night.  If this is the kind of thing they envision during their waking hours…what in the world does their brain do while resting?

The Paris Apartment, had so much detail. So much richness…it was like you were visually sinking into the most beautiful fabric ever found.


The story is made richer by the little things.

Photo Credit: www.architecturaldigest.com

LOOK at THAT detail.  It takes me so long to just scan the Paris Apartment, the moldings, the BLUE velvet, the interior of the fireplace…I mean really. It is THE INSIDE of a fireplace…that Jon Gary Steele made it this elegant little niche a visual worth dissecting.

Master Raymond’s apothecary was one of my absolute favourites. I found myself pausing and scanning. Pausing and scanning.  I love how the molding was used in the shop. To my uneducated eye it was framing more treasures…everywhere.


I could play in this room for HOURS, I believe I have!

Photo Credit: http://www.architecturaldigest.com/  http://media.architecturaldigest.com/photos/5706e210b2d72bc242ccecb6/master/pass/Outlander-second-season-set-design_07.jpg

This apothecary makes me feel like I am in a world…inside of a world.

The Star Chamber.  As a HUGE Book fan. I had a hard time imaging the scale in which this set would need to come to life. You can view many images of the Star Chamber on Jon Gary Steeles website

I can not imagine this scene from the books being as powerful as it was; had Jon Gary Steele and his team did not have their hands in this production. The word perfection might get flung around willy-nilly but this absolutely WAS perfection.


Each of these characters took the lead of the Star Chamber. It was a living breathing character. The way the light danced through the dome to the flickering torches. Even the floor in which we see the Comte take his last breath…it enveloped him.

Photo credit: http://www.jongarysteele.com/

Jon Gary Steele spoke with Variety about the sets. CLICK HERE to watch that video.

I especially enjoyed the sets in the Outlander finale episode this season. As we made our emotional way through the Rev.Wakefields home, sheds & dusty rooms. These places seemed so stale & untouched, yet filled with ghosts.

Culloden House, yes, we have seen in before, yet this time. I noticed the stark coldness permeating through those walls.


You know, I could very well feature each set, each design and all of the set decoration.  Jon Gary Steele has an incredible team to work with & I know that he knows how much the fans adore his talent and vision.

Me…I happen to LOVE his brain.  What ever it is that goes on in there, I would love to ride one of those waves one day. Watch him in action.  I devour interviews & videos to see if I can just grab a nugget of what it is that makes him tick but…I believe what he has, is that unique, that special…that mere mortals such as myself, won’t ever be able to grasp just what is going on in there.  I am utterly convinced that Mr.Steele has a Cerebral Cortex external pack as well as what he was blessed with at birth.


My husband often tells me “Sum up.” SO…in conclusion I need to thank Jon Gary Steele. Tell him that he has surrounded himself with greatness in the team he has.  I have always said that we are the product of those we share our days with…this product is an Emmy deserving, soul lifting group of people.


@ABOotlanders Founder